One of my favorite shows to watch is, Hoarders. At the beginning of the show you meet a person whose house looks normal (sometimes) on the outside, but in the inside it looks like a junkyard. Most of the time, the condition of the inside of the house are not fit to be lived in. Later on, when the show talks to the person you find out that the hoarding is usually the result of some traumatic situation that the person kept suppressed. Sometimes the person doing the hoarding does it because they felt like keeping things was away to stay emotionally attached to someone or something.
When I was watching the show one day the Holy Spirit spoke to me and told me that I do that with people. I didn't quite understand with that meant until a few days later when I started to evaluate the people in my life. I have always been the type of person that people would be drawn to, but I've always been somewhat of a bookworm who preferred the company of a select few. Because I didn't have many friends I felt obligated to hold on to the friends I have. It took me awhile to figure out just because someone is treating you badly, some people just aren't good for you or meant to be in your life forever. It doesn't mean that they are a bad person, sometimes God has things in store for you that others may not be able to handle, or some people may actually block your blessing. Sometimes God singles you out so you can tune everybody else out and be in His presence. The one thing I had to learn is how to let go of some people. I wanted to hold on to everybody in my life. I did not think that God saw those people as a distraction for what he called me to do. One of my favorite things to tell people was I had the same friends for years. When God was telling me some of those same friends needed to be out of my life. How was I going to write the book God called to me write if I spent so much time saving friends from their own problems or having drinks at Happy Hour? Alot of times we feel like we have to maintain a relationship with people out of obligation, the time invested, or because of the emotional attachment(the fear of not having that person to provide a false sense of security.) These are some of the same reasons why hoarders hold on to prodigious amounts of material possessions to the point that it becomes hazardous. It could be friendships or relationships with your significant other;not everybody is conducive for the life God wants you to lead or for your peace of mind. We have to learn when to let people go. Some people are meant to be in your life for a season...not forever. Im not saying that you will not meet people from different stages in your life who won't continue the journey with you, but I am saying learn to use discerment to evaluate your relationships. Healthy things grow, but dead things remain stagnate. If you find yourself doing the same things, arguing over the same things, or even feel like everytime you are around someone you are bored or feel emotionally drained when you are with a certain person, evaluate and decide if its time to let go. xoxo
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